My neighbor, which
is my uncle’s wife, had lived a live with so many difficulties that I would
say, she is a soldier. I call her a soldier because she has passed through a
lot of situation, such as battles, not only with her husband, but also with her
sons and daughters, and also with the society she lives with. She had been in
many controversies that putted her in the side of a victim, and in that side
she had stay. What I’m saying here is that she consider a totally victim of
every problem she goes through, even if she is not the victim. This position in
every intrapersonal relation makes her such as a submissive and powerless woman,
and she seems to be in totally agreement with this.
For example, since
she began to live with my uncle, every day there is a fight of words
(discussion); fight by gestures… fight by everything. What he just ask, she is
always there for him, but not him for her. So, I would say that she is like the
slave of him. Then she start to complain when she is not with him, saying that
she doesn’t disserve a life like that; that she is a victim. But in fact, she
doesn’t do anything to fight that, she doesn’t go against that. Only she keeps
supporting that behavior.
I think this is
very frustrating. If I were a woman, I would not tolerate something, like
behaviors from a man, like this. I would make pretty clear that I’m a woman and
that as a man do, I disserve totally respect. My neighbor should start thinking
about her value. And also start to just valuate herself, regardless of an
external valuation. I don’t doubt of her intelligence, but she would be more intelligent
if she start by that way. She is pretty, able, strong… a woman. And because of
that, she disserve better.
