My neighbor- a poor soldier

My neighbor, which is my uncle’s wife, had lived a live with so many difficulties that I would say, she is a soldier. I call her a soldier because she has passed through a lot of situation, such as battles, not only with her husband, but also with her sons and daughters, and also with the society she lives with. She had been in many controversies that putted her in the side of a victim, and in that side she had stay. What I’m saying here is that she consider a totally victim of every problem she goes through, even if she is not the victim. This position in every intrapersonal relation makes her such as a submissive and powerless woman, and she seems to be in totally agreement with this.

For example, since she began to live with my uncle, every day there is a fight of words (discussion); fight by gestures… fight by everything. What he just ask, she is always there for him, but not him for her. So, I would say that she is like the slave of him. Then she start to complain when she is not with him, saying that she doesn’t disserve a life like that; that she is a victim. But in fact, she doesn’t do anything to fight that, she doesn’t go against that. Only she keeps supporting that behavior.

I think this is very frustrating. If I were a woman, I would not tolerate something, like behaviors from a man, like this. I would make pretty clear that I’m a woman and that as a man do, I disserve totally respect. My neighbor should start thinking about her value. And also start to just valuate herself, regardless of an external valuation. I don’t doubt of her intelligence, but she would be more intelligent if she start by that way. She is pretty, able, strong… a woman. And because of that, she disserve better.